It’s a brand new year, which is the perfect time to review where you’re at in your career and where you want to be going. With so much going on in our lives in general, it’s easy to get caught up in the flow and be carried along a path that might not be in our best interests.
When I started my side business up during a full time PhD, I was scared to fall in love with it. Since I was 18 I had been working toward a career as a psychologist, so to think that I might want to do something else was incredibly scary. One of the funniest but most interesting human traits we have is that we hold on to something that deep down we know isn’t good for us, but we hang on because we have invested a lot of time into it. I think we can admit we have all stayed in a romantic relationship for longer than we should have just because we had been with that person over a long period of time. Breaking up with them feels like a ‘waste’ of the time we spent with them. It can feel very similar when we start to fall out of love with our career path and long for something new and different. So how do you know whether it’s time for a brand new career and total change? These tips below will hopefully help you decide.
Firstly, you must let go of any guilt. I know it can be scary when you suddenly realise you no longer feel as passionate about your career as you once did. I know doctors and lawyers who have spent years in training for their chosen career. They have put blood, sweat and tears into getting to where they wanted to get…only to find it wasn’t what they expected. Yet they hang onto it.
The past is done, it’s gone and there is no point sabotaging your future based on the fact you have put a lot of time & effort into something. Everything we learn in life can contribute in someway to the future, even if it doesn’t seem obvious right now. Want to start a business? I guarantee you can do that based on the skills and experience you have gained through your professional career. Want to do something totally different? I guarantee there are heaps of transferable skills and unique elements you can bring to the table.
We get one life and as cliche as it sounds, it really is TOO short to waste feeling unsatisfied or unhappy. We spend a huge proportion of our lives working on our careers and for long term satisfaction, it’s important that you are working on something that is meaningful to you.
It’s 2019 and I promise that you can make a full time income from pretty much anything, no matter your interest or passion…so there’s no excuse to stay stuck in something that doesn’t light you up.
How do you feel when you wake up in the mornings? Do you dread going back to work on a Monday? Listen to those feelings because that is your intuition telling you that something is wrong and something needs to change.
Got a passion that you’d love to make into a business? Fancy a new career or have your eye on a different company you’d love to get involved in? Experiment with your ideas before committing 100%! There is absolutely nothing wrong with this and in fact, it’s a great way to build your confidence before going all in.
Remember, life is actually just one big experiment. That’s why you can’t be so scared to get it wrong. The greatest inventions and breakthroughs that have changed the world didn’t happen through a happy accident. They happened after years of experimentation and failure. In the early stages of my business I worked it part time around my full time PhD. I didn’t just throw in my studies to pursue a new and exciting interest.
If it’s not possible to experiment, for example if you want to work for a totally new company, then I recommend a exercise called ‘Fear Setting,’ that was created by Tim Ferris. It will help you to go through the very worst case scenario if you do change jobs and help you create an action plan to reverse your decision if it doesn’t turn out the way you hoped.
Ask yourself this question…Is the fear of maybe getting it wrong going to outweigh the disappointment you’ll feel living your life doing something that doesn’t light you up?
There Is No Wrong Decision
The way you think about the world around you will dictate your reality. So what if you turned some common, so called ‘truths’ on their head? So many of us are paralysed by the fear of getting things wrong. But what if there was no ‘wrong decision,’ only a chance to learn? If a new career or a big change is calling you…see it as a chance to learn about yourself, not as a chance of getting something wrong.
If you don’t try, you’ll never know. When you think about it really…what’s the worst that can happen? When I decided to purse my business full time rather than find employment in the same field as my PhD, a lot of my friends and family thought I was crazy. I experienced a lot of negativity and judgement. I now know this is because other people have so many dreams and desires that they are too scared to pursue because of what others will think…so unconsciously or consciously, they don’t like to see you pursuing yours. This is why I work on the concept of ‘self’ so much with my private coaching clients, it’s part of my Self Made Method framework because they way you see yourself is vital to your continued success.
I hope that this post has helped you in your decision making process! I’d love to hear back from you if you are thinking about a career change in 2019 and these words have helped.
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